Another trap that parents fall into is when they start to think what they haven’t done because they had a bad day. For example the baby is sick and cried all day, or picture where you as the parent are bedridden, as happened own our case. Our children also spent days in hospital and I could have compared that and got into a panic because they weren’t doing formal lessons. Yet they were learning, valuable lessons, life lessons, that can’t possibly be put into the same category of cousins and friends sitting at school getting a different education. My own children’s education was not that, so I did not try and compare it to what it was not.
I want to try and help you not to make these mistakes, as it really isn’t helpful to you, or your children to do that. So let us talk a little more about those difficult days, and these are the days that you will be most inclined to fall into the comparing trap, concerning yourself that had the children been at school they would have done so much more, had more learning opportunities, there would have been a teacher teaching them, and you just could not do what you would have liked to do or cover with them that day. You had a sick baby or your little toddler had a bad day and you just could not get to the other children. It is these comparisons and the ‘what-ifs’ that I am trying to caution you against doing.
If you can release yourself from that thinking completely, the “What if they had been at school “ thinking, but rather look at your day and say, “OK today has not been a good day, so what are we going to do about it?” How are you going to cope and deal with difficult days with your children in a way that helps them to learn and grow in different ways, that they would not experience anywhere else? If we go back to the picture of both our children lying on the bed in hospital, I could easily have spent a lot of time concerning myself with what my children weren’t learning because we spent so many hospital days, but instead of thinking like that and falling into that trap I thought what are we learning here now, what is the most we can get out of this situation.
There are so, so many rewards in home education that we would otherwise be missing if our children weren’t with us. Someone else would be getting the benefit of being there when they reach a particular milestone, or reach a particular level, for example they can read that first reader to you and you were the one who taught them to do that. You can’t compare that.
Picture a little baby playing with some educational toys while the rest of the family are getting on with some project and how everyone stops to share the moment when the little baby is full of glee because he has been able to do something that he could not have done before. Those treasured moments are the ones I am talking about. Focus on that instead of comparing with something that is not, your children are not at school, so don’t try to compare with that.
Then there are the treasured moments when you suddenly get handed a bunch of daisies because there was time….I could talk so much about this topic of comparing but no matter how much I talk and how many pictures I show you, I am never going to be able to show you this as well as if I share with you the Word of God.
2 Corinthians 10:12 :-
But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding and behave unwisely. AMP
That is what the Word of God says, so that is plainly put.
Psalm 40:5 :-
Many, O LORD my God, are the wonderful works which You have done, And Your thoughts toward us; There is none to compare with You! AMP
So if we are going to talk about comparing let us talk abut comparing ourselves with Christ, lets talk about our children and seeing where they are falling short, how can we help them to grow more and more and more into His image because that is what he asked us for.
So if you are going to compare with anything, move your comparisons from what was, and is no longer, to what God wants you to do. He wants you to compare yourself to Him and grow in His ways and that is going to be a lifelong work, to grow in that. The other comparing is just destructive, that is what I have witnessed it to be.
Proverbs 3 :15
Skilful and Godly Wisdom is more precious than rubies; And nothing you can wish for compares with her – Amp
How can I add to that, I cannot say anything more.
This short production, has I hope, moved your thinking and comparing from where it was to where it has the most importance and value and that is in The Word of God. That is the only place we need to look to, to make comparisons. Godly wisdom is more precious than anything else and we find that in His Word.